Awe f**k!! Here we go again with THIS boolshyt…
That was my initial reaction and comment when reading the OHN post “Are Black Women Too Picky“.
According to “statistics“, the reason I am not married, along with 40% of black women in America, is that the majority of black men are incarcerated, gay, or dating Kim Kardashian.
According to author, (I use the term loosely), Jimi Izrael’s TRASH book “The Denzel Principle“, black women are too picky. We should toss aside all standards and hook up with the likes of his twice divorced three baby mamma ass!! I heard that tidbit of information when he was on the Tom Joyner Morning Show several weeks ago.
Even if I can lower my standards and find an available black man to marry at my age, my chances of having children has dramatically plummeted due to the ever decreasing number of eggs I’m producing…and those I do produce “ain’t ’bout shyt“. A scientific term. *wink*
Yeah, according to “statistics”, slanted science, and bitter authors looking for a payday, I should just say “fuck it”. F.M.L.!!!!
That is…IF I believed everything I read or hear or if I were easily influenced by others’ opinions.
Think about the theory of self-fulfilling prophecy:
Positive or negative expectations about circumstances, events, or people that may affect a person’s behavior toward them in a manner that he or she (unknowingly) creates situations in which those expectations are fulfilled.
But I remain on a constant vigil not to internalize the negative crap I hear on a regular. My advice to other black women is to do the same. Tune it out! Stop and think about how and why these messages are being disseminated and definitely consider the sources.
Cogito ergo sum………..I think, therefore I am. – Descartes