Online Dating

A few thoughts running through my mind. One thought didn’t produce enough for its own post so they have to share this space in my Random Ramblings.

~ Funny how you can know someone your entire life and not really know them at all. Is it that I am still learning things about myself or have I just began to recognize and accept myself as is – faults, warts, and all? Probably more so of the latter.

~ The expiration date is quickly approaching for my online dating adventure. I am done! After only 45 days, I have realized that I prefer the old-fashioned dating method. Given my recent history and track record with that – I might not be dating much. No worries though…I think Xandria is having a great sale. 😉

~ The Bald Va-Jay-Jay. What’s behind some men’s fascination with and desire for a hairless pum-pum? Close shaven or Brazilian maybe, but BALD?  Are men who like that clean-shaven look suspect as a close male friend has suggested? Doesn’t it remind you a of pre pubescent child – no hair? Not to mention it itches like hell during the “grow out” phase. Have a girl scratching like she’s got fleas. NOT. A. GOOD. LOOK! Trust me….I know 😐

~ My 1.5 hour commute (one-way) gives me a lot of time to think. Think about what to prepare for dinner…what to wear to work the next day. Should I purchase that $350 bicycle? When will my house sell? How much time spent on each thought really depends on how bad traffic is that day. Today Raheem Devaughns’ “Bedroom” triggered the following…”funny…I don’t remember the last time a man made me sweat where it rolled  between my breasts down to my stomach and landed in the creases of my belly button. Hmph…I really need to buy that toy from Xandria...”

~People who sit in a restaurant alone and talk on their mobile phones really annoy me. The same goes for those who yap away on the phone while in the checkout line at the grocery while the cashier rings their items. I think it is rude. the former indicates to me that the solo diner is not comfortable being alone. A lady sat down a few chairs away from me at the sushi bar today during lunch. She was chatting it up on her phone and the chef had to repeat himself several times because she was so engrossed in her conversation. RUDE! RUDE! RUDE!

Any thoughts on my thoughts or thoughts of your own you’d like to share?


  • Reconnecting with a college friend and discovering he is my sister’s cousin. (too long to explain so just go with it) LOL
  • Very Smart Brothas
  • The NBA Playoffs
  • Cycling on The Silver Comet Trail
  • Dwight Howard’s ARMS – LAWD JAYSUS!
  • The new WP theme I’m using for my blog.


  • Online dating (this shit is NOT for me)
  • Arizona’s new Racial Profiling Immigration law
  • Neighborhood kids who walk on my lawn (No home training!)
  • Dominoes Pizza
  • Slow drivers in the passing lane (Move B*tch! Get out the way!)


“When you decide you want happiness look me up” – Craig

That is a snippet of a very short email from a man I have never met. I will get back to that momentarily.

Several days ago I tweeted that this online dating thing was no better than “offline“. That email offers some proof of that.

Upon embarking on this new adventure, I thought it would be fun. Since I am not looking for a husband to get married, I thought I would, at the very least, meet a couple of interesting people, go on a few dates and it would  be all good. The idea was to diversify my dating pool, as it were, because I don’t do the club scene.

I even entertained the idea of blogging about my experience because many of the profiles and pictures made me giggle and guffaw a few times. Truth is, I howled with laughter at some of them. However, I decided against it.

There would be nothing to gain from poking fun at another’s quest to find love and happiness. There are a multitude of lonely people out there looking for their “soul mates”. To them I bid a sincere, heartfelt God speed.

However….the misguided, arrogant douchebag that sent that message made me say, “Awe, fuck it!”

Let me give you a little background so you can put it in its proper context.

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