Happy Monday and Happy St. Patrick’s Day!! We had an eventful weekend here in Atlanta. I’m sure most have heard about the tornado that left a path of destruction through the downtown area. Me and my family made it through the rough weather without any problems. Thank God!
A little over a year ago I had an encounter with a “friend” and an “acquaintance” that left me emotionally drained and wondering why the hell I even bothered entertaining them at all. Both ladies were miserable with their life choices and the acquaintance took a swipe at my upbeat philosophy and how I walk my path in life. I walked away from the situation resolved not allow their negativity and unhappiness to seep into my spirit.
I have known the friend for close to 20 years and the friendship has seen closer times. Over the years I have periodically put distance between us because of various reasons. Because of her, shall we say, “lifestyle”, for lack of a better word, I grew weary of men approaching me the same way they approached her just because we were hanging out together. Most made that assumption – birds of a feather. Well, that could not have been further from the truth. I’m trying to be subtle, kind, and delicate with my description of how she is/was without being crass but if you need me to draw you a picture…she’d do anything that moved.
Her selfishness and need to have the world revolve around her was another mitigating factor in my decision to put some distance between us. I am a grown woman and have not the time, nor the patience, to entertain that bullshit from another grown ass woman. One act of selfishness showed me just how far she was willing to go to have things her way, even if it meant destroying the marriage of a mutual friend. Thankfully, that didn’t happen because she took heed to a warning I gave her.
I know you’re wondering why in the hell have I remained friends with this person. Well, we share an extremely close friend and I’ve been reluctant to cut all ties with her because I haven’t wanted to create any tension.
But I’m beyond that now. I’m not angry. It’s just time to cut it loose, to let it go. I’ve known this for a long, long time. But even knowing this in my heart, I managed to almost let my feelings get hurt when I wasn’t included or invited to a couple of “outings”, the most recent being this past weekend. I really had to put myself and emotions in check. I had to ask myself…Would you have gone if you were invited? No!! Then why the hot ass hell are you tripping?
Let it go. It’s long overdue.