For nearly a year, this story has angered me.
Cylenthia Clark, a former assistant director for Fulton (Georgia) Department of Family and Children Services (DFCS), was accused (by Fayette County DFCS) and arrested on child abuse charges for allegedly “beating” (media sources’ word, not mine) her 8 year old daughter with a belt. Ms Clark apparently took a belt to her daughter’s butt for fighting with a student in school and a teacher. Read the story HERE.
There were reports that Ms Clark received preferential treatment because she was a DFCS employee and case workers stated they felt pressured to protect their colleague (full story here). Now the NAACP has stepped up to defend Ms Clark stating she, and other minority families in Fayette county, are being unfairly persecuted.
Clark is still awaiting trial in Fayette County, where the alleged crime occurred. But Thursday morning, Georgia and Fayette County NAACP officials called for a state investigation into not only Clark’s case, but the entire Fayette County DFCS office. They claim she and other minority families are being persecuted.
I believe in corporal punishment. “Spare the rod, spoil the child” is my philosophy. I believe children should have a healthy fear, or reverence shall we say, for their parents. How one chooses to instill that fear –slash– reverence varies from parent to parent but my mother did it with a B.E.L.T.
If at any given point after one of those “whoopins”, that I so deservedly received, DFCS would have visited our home and examined my welt covered behind, Momma would have been under the jail – by today’s standards. Was is abuse? No. Was it needed on occasion? HELL YES! As a child, I was more afraid of the thought of Momma’s whoopins than I was of being teased by friends for not doing something or going someplace with them she told me not to do or go. (Ooo, that was an awkward sentence) And when I did take temporary leave of my senses and disobeyed my mom and the infraction was “whoopin worthy”, the welts on my butt were there to remind me that actions have consequences.
Who determines what is abusive and what is not? Why should the way I discipline my child be considered abusive just because it differs from yours?
Why do you think that parents who use a belt to spank their children are failures at discipline? Check out the comment below.
I believe in “spanking” when it’s needed, for young children. Beating a child with a belt – and leaving marks, no less, that are still visible after she gets to school – is child abuse. I raised some very fine children – they have never been in any trouble with the law – and I certainly never beat them with a belt. If you are having to resort to that kind of thing then you are a failure at discipline, whether you know it or not.
The definition of abuse is too loose and too subjective, administered on the whim of overworked under paid social workers. If you discipline your child with a belt, then those who don’t agree with that method label it as abuse. Those who don’t agree with any form of corporal punishment will say the same. I believe many parents who are so “loosy goosy” with the discipline will see those kids in the criminal court system later on.
Allow me to “discipline” my future child(ren) as I see fit without the fear of being jailed. Please and thank you.
Oh, and BTW…GIVE THIS WOMAN BACK HER DAYUM KIDS!!!!!!!