Vee, my sister, was hot as fish grease! Infuriated by comments she heard on the radio and needing to vent, she called me. I’ll get to that in a moment.

The morning show crew on one of the local Atlanta radio stations, V-103, was discussing the latest RKelly news/gossip. About a month ago, RKelly’s publicist, Regina Daniels, issued a statement announcing her resignation from this position and formally disassociating herself from the R&B crooner. Her husband, George Daniels, followed suit.

The statement read in part “I have always prided myself on professionalism, respect and loyalty,” says Daniels. “I ended my relationship with Kelly because there are some lines you just don’t cross.” It is now rumored that RKelly allegedly slept with the Daniels’ daughter (who is 19) when she was 14 years old and this is reason for the Daniels’ departure.

The radio station opened its phone lines for listeners to call and voice their opinions. A few of the comments had Vee heated!

“The men are not always at fault. I started pushing up on grown men when I was 12.”

“Have you seen these girls? They look like grown women! They know what they are doing.”

Vee and I discussed this for a few minutes and the phone call ended.

Later in the day on another blog the RKelly topic came up and a commenter stated that the parents of this young lady should be brought up on charges if the allegations are true and asked where were they.  The commenter also referenced one of the radio listener’s comments about it not always being the man’s fault, although she didn’t agree with that.

Lets stop right here. Now, I’m the one heated.

The man is always at fault! He is the ADULT! I don’t care how “developed” a girl is, she is still a child and the ADULT needs to RUN, not walk, away from her if necessary! PERIOD!

With regards to the parents – they don’t always know.

Wait. Hear me out. I have first hand experience/knowledge.

Not knowing for sure what went on with RKelly’s publicist, I am going to speculate and assume the allegations are true. Hence the following argument:

Knowing him (Rkelly) for such a long time he probably assured the Daniels that what was being said was not true. Being close friends and wanting to believe him, they took him at his word and were probably very protective of “him”.

RKelly, being the PEDOPHILE he is, charmed the parents and betrayed their confidence by sleeping with their 14 yr old daughter! This is how a pedophile works. He gains the trust of the child, and most times the parents, and then he proceeds to violate the child(ren) without the parents’ knowledge. They tend to be family members or close family friends or acquaintances…rarely strangers!

The experience/knowledge?

I was 22 years old before I had the courage to tell my mother and sister that I had been molested by an uncle. It occurred on a regular basis from the time I was about 4 or 5 years old until I was 8 or 9 years old.

An uncle. A relative. A family member.

He already had the trust of my parents since he was my father’s baby brother who was only eight years older than me. I don’t ever remember him threatening harm to me or my parents (many pedophiles use this as a means to keep their victims silent) but I do remember feeling it was wrong and I was ashamed. He took a different route, always proclaiming me as his “favorite” niece. Disgusting.

I made my mom and sister promise not to tell anyone, especially my dad and grandmother (dad’s mom). Both died and went to their graves not knowing the truth. It wasn’t until about six years ago I decided not to continue living with the shame and the guilt. I released them from keeping the secret. I also put a stop to this uncle contacting me on holidays and birthdays to extend his well wishes. I talked openly to other family members about my experience and to my horror found out that I wasn’t the only one. He had molested another one of his nieces, my cousin. She didn’t tell her mother until her early 20s either.

The parents don’t alway know.

If the rumors are true about RKelly and the Daniels, don’t be so quick to point the fingers at the parents. Odds are they didn’t have a clue.

RKELLY is a sick bastard and the adults and people in general who continue to support him by purchasing his music and attending his concerts – SHAME ON YOU!

‘Well, he hasn’t been convicted of anything yet’, you say. Maybe not, but RKelly has shown to have an affinity, a proclivity for young girls, e.g. his annulled marriage to Aaliyah plus the many other rumored encounters.

What if it was your daughter? Think about it!

One more thing before you leave.

Please DO NOT think of me or look at me as a victim. I am not. I want no one’s pity. I am a SURVIVOR. I’ve never looked at myself as a victim nor have I ever defined myself by what happened to me as a little girl. That would give the miscreant too much power over me.

I do pray to find forgiveness in my heart for this uncle for that is the only way for me to be totally free. Little by little the forgiveness grows in my heart edging out the anger and resentment. It is a work in progress.

I am a happy well adjusted woman and I love life!